“We read to know we are not alone.” – C.S. Lewis
My colleagues and I had a productive writing group meeting yesterday, not to mention lots of FUN! We each told the others what we were working on, what we needed help with, and critiqued one piece. Then we received a tutorial on Facebook.
One topic that came up was what is fair game to cover in our writing. I shared one recom-mendation I have learned from my years of blogging. Do not stray away from writing about personal experiences or feelings that make you feel inadequate or comfortable. These may be the exact feelings others are having difficulty coming to terms with, and your willingness to reveal your own feelings may be just what they need to feel less alone.
For me, writing has always been soothingly therapeutic. When I feel the need to explore why I feel bad about something, writing in my journal is the perfect outlet. From 9th grade on, I have explored my own internal world in this way.
Reading filled a similar desire, to feel less alone with my feelings. Reading is so personal. We reveal things in writing that we may never have felt free to discuss with others, or perhaps nobody seemed that interested. Reading is a unique avenue into learning about someone else’s internal world.
For example, after I lost my job in 2004, I spent months thinking about how I had arrived at this disappointing point in my life. I will never forget the moment I realized I must be a midlife loser. But soon after that I wanted to take it back. This was just too embarrassing to even admit to myself, let alone to others.
A few years later I got up enough courage to explore these feeling in a few blog posts on MidlifeCrisisQueen.com. A few weeks later I was surprised to see how this post had attracted so many readers! Blogs are handy that way. On blogs you can find out quickly what topics are hot right now.
I felt geniune empathy for others who felt that exact same way, so I put together my short e-book: Feel Like A Loser? What to do when you don’t have a clue. I wanted to tell others that they were not alone on their lonely path, and that there are lots of great ways to get past your past and move on to a brighter future.